For me, one of the hardest aspects of pregnancy has been the conflict between not wanting/being able to do work, feeling obligated to work, and my impressions of other people’s expectations for my work. While this is a tension that reflects a perfect storm of being pregnant while also having a fairly work-intense job, the basic dynamic here is common to academia broadly. Read More
Category: Personal
How much help is it reasonable to expect from your parents, and what makes someone “lucky” in that regard?
Over the past two years, I’ve been embarrassed to tell people where I live. Read More
What you need for pregnancy and what you don’t – goods and state of mind
Pregnancy, like any major life event, has a steep learning curve. You can’t really prepare, because you don’t know how things are going to be for you, but at the same time, you can learn about the range of things you can expect and know what resources are available once you run into trouble.
What is it like to be pregnant…with twins…in grad school?
About two months into my pregnancy, my older brother D said “you’re so lucky you’re doing this in school, it’s way easier.” He wasn’t wrong.